DAY 39 - Be You So What’s Assigned to You Can Actually Find You

Alright, let's be real here. How many of us are out here walking around in somebody else’s skin? Waking up every day, putting on these masks, trying to be the version of ourselves we think will make people like us, respect us, love us… and then we wonder why we feel stuck? We wonder why we’re tired, frustrated, and unfulfilled. Let me tell you—it’s because you can’t expect what’s meant for the real you to show up when you’re out here pretending to be somebody else.

Take this for example: Imagine you’re at a party, and you put on a mask—like a literal one, not just a metaphorical one. You’re mingling, talking to folks, but after a while, people start recognizing that something’s off. They’re polite, but nobody really sees you because that mask is in the way. The vibe gets awkward. Now you’re standing there, knowing deep down that you’re not really connecting, but you don’t take the mask off. You’re scared to. And then, when the party’s over, you leave thinking, “Man, why didn’t I have more fun? Why didn’t anyone get me?” But it’s because you never showed them who you were in the first place!

The same thing happens in real life. We’re scared to show up as we really are, thinking people won’t accept us, so we hide. We think, "If I change this or that about myself, then I’ll get what I want." So, we tweak our personality at work, play down our creativity with our friends, or hide our sensitive side in relationships because, for some reason, we think we won’t be loved if we’re not “perfect.” But all that stuff you want—whether it’s love, success, joy—it can’t find you when you’re living a lie.

Let’s talk about dating, for example. How many times have you gone on a date and tried to be more of what you thought that person wanted? Maybe you pretended to love sports, acted super chill when in reality you’re passionate and intense, or held back your quirks. Fast forward a few weeks or months, and you’re feeling like the relationship is going nowhere. You’re drained because you’ve spent all your energy trying to be a watered-down version of yourself. But you can’t build something real off a fake foundation. That relationship didn’t end because you weren’t good enough—it ended because you weren’t being yourself. The person who’s really meant for you? They’re going to fall in love with you—not some performance.

Or think about work. Maybe you're in a job where every day you feel like you’re showing up as someone you're not. You dim your light because you don’t want to stand out too much, or you bite your tongue because you're afraid of ruffling feathers. But that promotion or opportunity you're dreaming of? It’s not gonna come if the people in charge can’t even see what you’re really capable of. You’re sitting there, thinking, “Why can’t they see my value?” when the reality is, they can’t see it because you're too busy hiding it.

And let’s not even get started on social media. So many of us are caught up in this endless comparison game. You see people posting their curated lives—everything looks flawless, right? So, we try to replicate it. We filter our personalities just like we filter our photos. But here’s the kicker: while you’re busy trying to be like them, the opportunities meant for you are passing you by because you’re not showing up as your authentic self. It’s like fishing with the wrong bait—you’ll catch something, but it won’t be what you really want or need.

You can hustle your way into spaces, but if you’re not yourself when you get there, it won’t last. You’ll burn out trying to keep up with a version of you that doesn’t even exist. It’s like running on a treadmill: You’re working hard, but you’re not getting anywhere.

Here’s another relatable one: You ever been in a room with a group of people and felt the tension of trying to fit in? It’s like when you’re at that family dinner, and you’re holding back from saying what you really feel because you know it’s going to ruffle feathers. But here’s the problem: the longer you do that, the more disconnected you feel from yourself. You leave that space feeling smaller, like you betrayed your own truth, and it eats at you. That’s what happens every time you shrink yourself to fit into spaces that aren’t meant for you.

The truth is, being you is messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes scary as hell. It’s like standing in front of the world with no armor on, just your raw, unfiltered self. People might misunderstand you. They might judge you. They might walk away. But here’s the thing: the people who matter? The opportunities that are yours? They’ll come to you because they recognize who you really are, not who you’re pretending to be.

Look, I know it’s tempting to try to be someone else because we think that’s the only way to get ahead, to be loved, to be accepted. But that’s not your path. You can’t walk someone else’s path and expect to find your destination. You have your own lane, and what’s meant for you is sitting there, waiting. But it can’t find you if you keep zigzagging into everyone else’s lane.

So, what does it look like to “Be You”? It looks like leaning into your quirks, embracing your imperfections, and being loud about the things you love. It means not apologizing for being too much or not enough by someone else’s standards. It’s knowing that the right opportunities, the right people, the right blessings will show up when you show up as your full, authentic self.

And yeah, it’s going to feel weird at first. You’re going to want to retreat and throw that mask back on. But the more you practice stepping into who you really are, the more freedom you’re going to feel. You’ll notice that things will start falling into place. You won’t have to chase after stuff that isn’t for you because what’s for you will naturally find its way to you.

So, stop playing small. Stop trying to fit into molds that were never made for you. Because what’s meant for you can’t show up until you do. Be You, so what’s assigned to you can actually find you.