DAY 38 - The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you're not going to stay where you are.

The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you're not going to stay where you are. Sounds easy, right? But let’s be real—it’s not. Because we all know how easy it is to stay where we are, even when we’re miserable, even when everything in us is screaming that we need to make a change. Why? Because staying stuck, staying comfortable—hell, sometimes it’s just easier. It’s familiar, and we cling to familiar, even when it’s holding us back.

But at some point, you’ve got to stop lying to yourself, stop pretending that things are fine the way they are, and decide. Decide that where you are isn’t where you’re meant to stay. That this version of you, this stagnant, comfortable version, is not your final form. And that decision? It’s scary. It’s ugly. It’s messy. Because change is never neat and clean.

Let’s just break it down—before you can even think about moving forward, you’ve got to face the truth of where you are. And that’s tough. Sometimes we don’t want to admit that we’re unhappy, unfulfilled, or that we’ve let ourselves settle for something less than what we deserve. We don’t want to confront the fact that we’re scared—scared to fail, scared to try, scared of the unknown.

But guess what? If you don’t face it, if you don’t make that decision to move, nothing’s going to change. You’re going to stay stuck, right where you are. And one day, you’ll wake up, look around, and wonder why you’re still in the same place you were five years ago, asking yourself, "How did I get here?"

The truth is, deciding to move is only step one. It’s like saying, “I’m ready for something new,” but then what? That’s where the real work starts. You have to get uncomfortable. You have to push yourself into spaces that scare you. You have to take action. And look—action doesn’t always look like some grand gesture or major life shift. Sometimes action is just getting out of bed when you don’t feel like it. Sometimes it’s telling someone “no” for the first time in your life. Sometimes it’s sitting with yourself and letting the messiness of your emotions rise to the surface, because that’s part of the process too.

The point is—you’ve got to move. And let’s be honest, there’s a good chance you won’t want to. There’s a good chance you’ll second-guess everything. You’ll start, and then stop, and then start again. You’ll have days where you think, “Maybe I’m fine right here. Maybe change isn’t worth it. Maybe it’s just easier to stay put.”

And you know what? It is easier to stay put. It’s easier to convince yourself that this is good enough. But you know deep down that "good enough" is a lie. It’s a comfort blanket that’s keeping you from where you’re meant to be.

Now, let’s talk about accountability. Because making that decision? That’s the easy part. The hard part is holding yourself accountable when it gets tough, when you want to quit, when you want to just sit down and stay where you are. And trust me, you will. There will be times when you’ll want to tap out, throw in the towel, and tell yourself, “I’ll try again later.” But there is no later—there’s only now.

This is where accountability comes in—because you can’t rely on willpower alone. That will run out real quick. You need to create structures around you that hold you to your own promises. Maybe that looks like a journal where you track your progress, where you write down every small win, and I mean every single one. Or maybe you find someone who will check in with you—someone who won’t let you off the hook when you start slipping. Someone who says, “Hey, I see you. Don’t backtrack now.”

And when you do start to slip—and you will—you have to give yourself some grace. Because this journey isn’t neat, it’s not linear, and it’s definitely not pretty. It’s messy, it’s uncomfortable, and sometimes it’s downright ugly. There will be days when you feel like you’re crawling, barely making any progress, but guess what? Crawling is still movement. You’re still moving.

Remember, the first step towards getting somewhere is deciding you’re not going to stay where you are. But that’s only the beginning of the story. After that, it’s up to you to take action. Real, messy, imperfect action. It’s up to you to stay accountable, even when it feels impossible. It’s up to you to keep going, even when you want to quit.

And you will want to quit. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Change is brutal. Growth is uncomfortable. But staying stuck? That’s a whole different kind of suffering.

So, I want to ask you this: Where in your life have you settled? Where have you let yourself believe that "good enough" was all you deserved? Because deep down, you know you’re capable of more. So why are you staying where you are?

Make the decision. Choose to move. Step into the messiness, the uncertainty, the discomfort. And then hold yourself to it. Because no one’s going to do it for you. This is your journey, your growth, your life.  You’re the only one who can decide to leave where you are and start moving toward where you’re meant to be. So stop waiting for the right moment. Stop waiting for a sign. Stop waiting for anything to be perfect, because it won’t be.

Just decide. And take that first step. Then take another. And another. Even when it’s messy. Even when it hurts. Even when you’re tired. Because forward is forward. And one day, you’ll look back and realize that the messiness, the chaos, the discomfort—that was the process. That was the journey. And it was worth it.