DAY 32 - Every scar has a story. Don't be afraid to tell it.
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Let’s get real—life can be straight-up messy. We’ve all been knocked down, felt broken, and wondered if we’d ever get back up again. The truth is, it’s easy to get lost in the chaos of it all, but every scar has a story. That’s right, each scar represents a chapter in our lives, a chapter of resilience, growth, and strength.
And here’s the thing—we don’t talk about the messy parts enough. Everyone wants to share their highlight reels, their picture-perfect moments, but what about the times when things didn’t go as planned? Those are the stories that matter. Those are the stories that connect us, that remind us we’re human. So today, we’re going to lean into the mess and talk about what it really means to embrace your scars and tell your story.
Let It Out—Don’t Filter Your Emotions
Look, I get it. Society tells us we’ve got to hold it together, stay strong, and push through. But can I just say it? That’s nonsense. You are allowed to break down. You are allowed to feel every bit of what’s happening to you. Because if you don’t, that pain will stay trapped inside, and guess what? It’s not going anywhere. You can’t heal what you don’t feel.
So, cry if you need to. Rage if you must. Journal all those messy thoughts, the ones you wouldn’t dare say out loud. Get it out. It’s in those raw, unfiltered moments that healing begins. When you stop pretending you’re okay, that’s when you can start the real work of moving forward. And let me be clear—it’s not weakness. It’s bravery.
Give Yourself Permission to Be in Progress
We are so obsessed with the idea of being “fixed” or having it all together, but let’s be real: no one has it all together. We’re all works in progress. Every single one of us. We are allowed to be incomplete, to be growing, learning, and evolving.
Here’s the truth: you can be a masterpiece and a work in progress at the same time. Your scars are part of your beauty. They tell the world you’ve been through things, but you’re still standing. Stop aiming for perfection because perfection is a myth. Embrace the messiness of your journey. It’s okay if you’re not where you want to be yet. You’re still on the path, and that is enough. The journey itself is where the magic happens.
Ask for Help Without Guilt
Here’s a myth that needs busting right now: asking for help is not a sign of weakness. I know it feels like admitting you need help is admitting defeat, but it’s the opposite. We are wired for connection, and sometimes the strongest thing you can do is reach out and say, “I need help.”
Whether it’s talking to a therapist, leaning on a friend, or even confiding in a stranger online, asking for help is a game changer. No one is doing this life thing alone, despite what you see on social media. So stop feeling guilty for needing support. It’s okay not to be okay, and it’s okay to lean on others when you need it. Vulnerability is strength, and the more you embrace it, the more you’ll grow.
Celebrate the Small Wins
Let’s talk about those tiny victories, the ones we often overlook because they don’t feel like a “big deal.” Did you get out of bed today? Did you make that phone call you were dreading? Did you take one step toward a goal, even if it was a baby step? Celebrate that.
We get so caught up in waiting for the grand moments to give ourselves credit, but life is made up of the small wins. Every little step forward is progress, even when it doesn’t feel like it. So, celebrate those wins—big or small. Be proud of the fact that you’re still here, still moving forward, no matter how slow the pace may seem. It all counts.
Your Scars Are Proof You Survived
Here’s where we get real: you will get hurt again. Life will keep throwing curveballs, and you will face more challenges. But guess what? You’ve already survived 100% of the worst days of your life. And every scar you carry is proof of that.
Think about that. Your scars aren’t weaknesses; they’re badges of honor. They tell the world that you’ve been through things that were meant to break you, but you’re still standing. Each scar holds a lesson, a story of survival. And you need to tell that story.
Because when you do, something amazing happens. Someone else, who is going through their own mess, hears your story and feels less alone. They see your strength and think, “If they can get through it, maybe I can too.” Your vulnerability becomes someone else’s strength.
Stop Waiting for the ‘Right’ Time to Tell Your Story
So many of us hold back, waiting for the “right” time to share our scars. We think we need to be fully healed, fully “together,” before we let others in on our story. But here’s the truth: there is no right time. Share your story while you’re still healing. Share it while it’s still messy. Share it while you’re still figuring it out.
Because healing isn’t a destination—it’s a journey. And when you tell your story from the middle of the mess, that’s when it’s most powerful. That’s when it’s raw, real, and relatable. That’s when you give others permission to be messy too.
Mess Is Magic
Let me leave you with this: your mess is your magic. It’s what makes you who you are. Every setback, every breakdown, every mistake—it’s all shaping you into the person you’re meant to become. And that person? She’s already enough.
So don’t hide your scars. Don’t shy away from the mess. Tell your story, proudly. Because someone out there needs to hear it. Someone out there needs to know that it’s okay to be a masterpiece and a work in progress at the same time. They need to see that healing isn’t linear, and that’s okay. They need to know that the scars they’re carrying are proof of their strength, not their weakness. Your story is powerful. Your mess is beautiful. And your scars? They’re proof that you’re unstoppable. So go out there and own it. Tell your story, mess and all, because in your vulnerability, you’ll find freedom—and you’ll help others find theirs too.