DAY 33 - Before you diagnose yourself with depression, make sure you are not in fact surrounded by A-Holes.

Let’s be real for a second—life doesn’t give you a manual. There’s no instruction booklet that tells you how to navigate the days when everything feels like it’s going to hell. No one warns you that being an adult isn’t just paying bills and hitting career goals, but also crying in the shower at 3 AM because you’re overwhelmed, exhausted, and questioning everything.

We live in a world that tells us to grind harder, to do more, to fix ourselves—like we’re some kind of broken product that just needs tweaking to be acceptable. And let me tell you something: you are not broken. You are not a project that needs perfecting. You are not a checklist of achievements waiting to be completed.

You are human. Which means you’re going to mess up. A lot. And that’s okay. Because the truth is, no one has this thing called life figured out. No one has the perfect formula for happiness, success, or peace. We’re all just trying to get by, to make sense of the chaos, and to find a little bit of joy along the way.

But here’s the thing—chaos is normal. We spend so much time trying to control everything, to make sure we’re on the right path, that we forget life isn’t meant to be perfectly controlled. It’s meant to be lived. And sometimes living means stumbling, falling, and getting back up. It means having days where you feel like you’re on top of the world, followed by days where you feel like you’re sinking.

And you know what? That’s all part of the process. Growth isn’t this linear, straightforward journey where you’re constantly improving and leveling up. It’s messy. It’s full of setbacks, detours, and roadblocks. You’ll make progress one day, and the next day, you’ll feel like you’ve lost it all. But those moments? The ones where you’re struggling the most? Those are the moments where you’re growing the most.

You don’t need to have it all together. Nobody does. Let me tell you something—I’ve seen people who look like they’re living their best lives on the outside, and on the inside, they’re falling apart. We all are, in some way. We’re all just trying to make it through the day without losing our minds. So stop comparing yourself to someone else’s highlight reel. Stop thinking that because your life isn’t picture-perfect, you’re somehow failing.

The truth is, no one talks about the mess because it’s uncomfortable. It’s vulnerable. But the mess is where the real work happens. It’s where you learn who you are, what you’re made of, and what you can survive. The mess is where you grow. It’s where you break down and rebuild yourself, again and again.

You know those days where you feel like you’re just crawling through the mud, barely making it? Those are the days that matter the most. Those are the days where you’re building resilience, strength, and character. You might not see it now, but every time you pick yourself up, even when it feels impossible, you’re proving to yourself just how strong you are.

And guess what? Growth doesn’t have to look pretty. It doesn’t have to be tied up in a neat little bow. It can be ugly. It can be chaotic. It can be full of tears, frustration, and doubt. But that doesn’t make it any less valid. In fact, it makes it even more powerful. Because anyone can show up when life is easy. But showing up when everything’s falling apart? That’s where true strength lies.

So, if you’re sitting there thinking you’re failing because life feels too heavy right now—let me remind you that you are not failing. You are living. You are experiencing the full spectrum of what it means to be human. You are feeling the highs and the lows, the joy and the pain. And that’s what life is about. It’s about embracing all of it—the good, the bad, and the ugly—and knowing that through it all, you are enough.

You don’t have to have all the answers. You don’t need to have your entire life mapped out. It’s okay to be confused. It’s okay to change your mind. It’s okay to not know what the hell you’re doing half the time. Because guess what? None of us do.  So stop putting pressure on yourself to be perfect. Stop expecting yourself to always be “on.” You are allowed to be tired. You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to just be. You are enough, right here, right now, in this moment, even if everything feels like a mess.

Because the truth is, you are not defined by your worst days. You are not defined by your mistakes. You are not defined by how “together” your life looks. You are defined by your heart, your resilience, and your willingness to keep showing up, even when it’s hard.

So if you’re feeling lost, if you’re feeling overwhelmed, if you’re questioning your worth—just know this: you are doing better than you think. You are stronger than you realize. And you are worthy of love, joy, and peace, even when life feels chaotic.

Embrace the mess. Celebrate the chaos. Because that’s where the magic happens. That’s where the growth happens. That’s where you happen.  And let me leave you with this—every single one of us is walking around with our own mess. But it’s in those messy, raw, unfiltered moments that we find our power. So stop hiding from the mess. Own it. Embrace it. Live it. Because that’s where your true beauty lies.