DAY 37 - Blocking Your Blessings by Holding On to the Wrong People

Alright, let’s be brutally honest here. Sometimes we’re the reason we’re stuck. Not the world, not the universe, not even the situation—it’s us. We block our own blessings, and one of the biggest ways we do that is by holding on to people who should have been removed from our lives a long time ago.

You know exactly who I’m talking about. The ones who drain you. The ones who show up only when it benefits them. The ones who play small when you start dreaming big. But instead of setting boundaries, we hold on, making excuses for their behavior: "They’ve been in my life forever," or "They’ve helped me through some tough times." But at what cost?

Let’s not sugarcoat it. Holding onto people who no longer fit into your life is a form of self-sabotage. It’s like putting rocks in your backpack before running a marathon and then wondering why you’re so damn tired halfway through. You know it’s the weight. You feel it dragging on you every single day, but for some reason, you just keep it on your back.

And why? Is it fear? Is it guilt? Are you worried about being the villain in their story? Or maybe, deep down, you’re afraid of what happens when you finally create the space for yourself to breathe, to grow, to receive. Because if we’re being real, sometimes growth is scarier than staying stuck.

Let me tell you something: not everyone is meant to go where you’re going. Some people are in your life for a reason, a season, and some, for life. But let’s stop trying to turn seasonal people into lifetime passengers. You can’t drag people into your future who were only meant to help you navigate a small chapter of your past.

It’s time to get messy and start letting go. It’s time to stop shrinking yourself to make space for people who don’t celebrate you. People who are threatened by your growth, who try to dim your light, or worse, those who flat out don’t care about what’s best for you. The hard truth is, they’re dead weight. And the longer you hold onto them, the more you’re telling the universe, "I’m okay with being stuck. I’m okay with stagnation."

Here’s where it gets uncomfortable: sometimes these people are close to us. They’re family, they’re friends we’ve known forever. You’ve laughed together, cried together. But don’t get it twisted—just because someone’s been with you through the storm doesn’t mean they’re meant to walk in your sunshine. Not every person who helped you survive your past can help you thrive in your future.

When you hold onto these people, what happens? You start to notice you feel heavy. You start to dread conversations, second-guess sharing your dreams, and worse, you start feeling small in spaces you once felt bold. You’ll find yourself censoring your own joy, not because you don’t deserve it, but because the people around you can’t handle your glow.

You’re blocking your blessings because these people are draining the very energy you need to attract what’s meant for you. They become like static noise in the background of your life, keeping you from hearing your intuition clearly. And here’s the real kicker: blessings don’t flow into cluttered spaces. They need room to land, and honey, as long as you’re holding onto what no longer serves you, your hands are full.

Let’s talk about what happens when you finally let go. Because we can sit here all day talking about the problem, but the magic is in the release.

When you release people who are no longer aligned with your journey, it’s like unclogging a drain. Suddenly, everything starts to flow again. Opportunities, clarity, joy—they start flooding back into your life. Your energy shifts. You stop attracting situations that drain you, and instead, you start attracting those who are meant to support you, lift you, and bring you peace.

But don’t get it twisted—letting go is messy. It’s emotional. You’re going to feel guilty. You’re going to feel selfish. And if you’re anything like me, you’ll probably run through all the “what ifs.” "What if they’re going through something and need me? What if they think I’m abandoning them?"

But let me ask you this: what if you’re abandoning yourself by keeping them around? What if the person who needs you the most right now is you?

You’ve got to remember, it’s not your job to carry everyone with you. You can love people from a distance. You can release them without resentment. But you have to let go. You owe it to your future self. You owe it to the blessings waiting on you to clear space.

I know it’s not easy. You’re going to lose sleep. You’re going to question if you’re doing the right thing. And some people might even call you selfish for choosing yourself, but let me tell you—self-care is not selfish. Protecting your peace is not selfish. Prioritizing your growth is necessary.

Look, life is short. Too short to spend it surrounded by people who don’t support you, who don’t celebrate your wins, who secretly resent your glow. Let them go. Let them make space for the people who do.

Because here’s the thing: once you release the dead weight, you’re going to start seeing things differently. Your vision will clear up. Your energy will return. And the blessings that have been hovering around, waiting for you to make space, will come rushing in.

Don’t let fear keep you from what’s meant for you. Don’t let loyalty to the wrong people block the abundance that’s your birthright. You are worthy of relationships that fuel your soul, not drain it. You deserve the kind of support that leaves you feeling lighter, not heavier.

So, take a deep breath. It’s time to let go. Release the people who’ve run their course in your life, and trust that in doing so, you’re making room for the blessings that were always meant to be yours.

It’s messy. It’s hard. But it’s also liberating. And your future self will thank you for the courage you showed today.